My most recent ex had an 8th house Cancer moon. She says her mother never showed her affection. Cancer moon is already protective of their emotions, but in the 8th house, it almost becomes a life or death situation in revealing how they feel. It can be hell on a relationship for someone to be so secretive about their deepest feelings.
acutely sensitive to the emotional states of others..only too aware of how closeness can be abused, probably owing to your sensing and taking personally something that happened between your parents.
Her parents divorced when she was younger. Now the 8th house is a deep dark house of secrets, and taboo subjects, so this is kind of hard to bring up. But one thing I noticed about her mom from pictures and videos was that she didnt like to talk much, and her hairstyle/clothing gave me the impression she was lesbian. I was watching Dr. Phil the other day, dealing with women who were sexually confused and didnt come out until their 30's or 40's. So in line with deep dark secrets that people keep to themselves, in retrospect, I get the feeling that her mother was secretly lesbian, or came to realize this, and her deep, dark secret may have caused the divorce. Needless to say, my ex doesnt like to talk much about her past, her family, or what caused her parents' divorce. But she lives with her mom(still single), who used to call me "that boy" when referring to me.
The painful thing is, I think she may have instilled a bit of her hatred and distrust (and disgust?) for men into my ex, who also has some "masculine" tendencies. I think she has picked up her mom's tough traits as a defense mechanism and means of survival.
A fear of being hurt. Usually a fear born out of having an unemotional mother in childhood.
Again, 8th house always brings up issues that are uncomfortable to deal with in public settings, and this can also deal with things spoken of in the "
deep dark disturbances of Pluto" thread. I think issues like rape, or prostitution are found here, so as you can see, if that's in someone's past, or their mother's past, you can understand why they may have trust issues, fear of getting emotionally close to people etc. In this case, if a woman has been sexually abused by a man/or men (I think the 8th house rules these secrets), then she may develop a hatred for men, and may instill it in their daughter if they have any.
Again, uncomfortable subject to get into, but that's what the 8th house is about. On the positive side, someone said "I read, that this position makes people
popular or famous." and that they
can "comfort others in a deeply subtle way." I find this to be true,this person I know really was able to tune into my own pain and emotionally connect and identify with me and tries to cheer everyone up. I learned however, that their issues are too deep for the average person to help them with. 8th house issues are best dealt with professional help.
So my ex has a deep fear of being hurt by a man, like her mother was. Unfortunately, she seems to have picked up negative patterns of behavior from her mother which would drive a man away if the relationship becomes too deep. Let's just say I dont envy anyone with this position of the moon, but
the positive side is, once these 8th house demons are faced, it can be a tremendous source of emotional power, and ability to understand and heal others at the deepest emotional levels.
ps I apologize in advance, and want to clarify I have nothing against anyone who is gay/lesbian. I think the 8th house represents "the closet" that some may be afraid to come out of. I think it's a subject so sensitive, and taboo, I rarely find it being brought up in astrology in general and that says alot about how deep and sensitive a subject it is..It may seem off topic, but I brought it up as food for thought for whoever may have overlooked this as an 8th house issue in their life
Anyone else with 8th house Moon?
