Confused about love/hate in dreams

[actio]

I keep having these confusing dreams... essentially the people with whom I am conflicting in life, and its not just light conflicts but serious one where a person will try to discredit me or invent lies and talk **** behind my back, in dreams I see them in friendly, loving relations with me. It's confusing because I wake up with an after-glow from the dream, some positive emotions remain, then in life I find out that they just did more hurtful stuff. What could this possibly mean?

 

[JUPITERASC]

I keep having these confusing dreams... essentially the people with whom I am conflicting in life, and its not just light conflicts but serious one where a person will try to discredit me or invent lies and talk **** behind my back, in dreams I see them in friendly, loving relations with me. It's confusing because I wake up with an after-glow from the dream, some positive emotions remain, then in life I find out that they just did more hurtful stuff. What could this possibly mean?

Some insight from Dream Moods A-Z of dreams could reveal the reasons for your puzzling dream experiences actio

94 word QUOTE source: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/


“To dream of love suggests intense feelings carried over from a waking relationship

BUT the dream may be compensatory and implies that you may not be getting enough love in your life. We naturally long for the sense to belong and to be accepted.

Dreaming your friend loves you may be wish fulfillment. Perhaps you have feelings for your friend and your preoccupation found its way into your dreaming mind.

Alternatively, the dream may suggests that you have accepted certain qualities of your friend and incorporated it into your own character”

 

[zoumizzouzou]

I keep having these confusing dreams... essentially the people with whom I am conflicting in life, and its not just light conflicts but serious one where a person will try to discredit me or invent lies and talk **** behind my back, in dreams I see them in friendly, loving relations with me. It's confusing because I wake up with an after-glow from the dream, some positive emotions remain, then in life I find out that they just did more hurtful stuff. What could this possibly mean?

Oooh! I'm having a similar problem... I used to work with this guy that I really, really, like (ok, maybe I'm in loooove with him), and my friend that I have known for almost 11 years now (she got me my job), has been saying things that conflict with my dreams. For one, this guy gave all the signs of liking me. When I brought this up to her, she just brushed it all aside. Then when I told her that I loved him, she started saying, "Well, I'm sorry but he hates you, and it will never happen, so you should just get over it." I never did anything to him to make him hate me, angry yes, but not to the point of hating me. In my dreams, he is romantic towards me, without going in to details (its not sex related, promise!), its just that I don't get that vibe from him, nor do I in real life (of him hating me, of course), so I think she's lying to me, but Idk why she would do that, seeing as she has a boyfriend that she loves dearly and has been with for 3 years!

 

[Prominent]

Actio, Idk what to say.. In my opinion it sounds like you're holding onto something.

zoumizzouzou, Would you prefer to stay within your head and dream? or would you prefer to go outside of it and communicate with whatever you don't know?

 

[zoumizzouzou]

zoumizzouzou, Would you prefer to stay within your head and dream? or would you prefer to go outside of it and communicate with whatever you don't know?

I have tried talking to her, and she always brushes every thing aside. She always says, "It will never be. Just give up. He doesn't like you. This, that, this, that. Yadda yadda." Every time I talk to her, she is so negative about it. I would like to talk to him about it, but he is really shy, and so am I. I know there is attraction between us, and someone has to make the first move, but I'm worried that if we do become something, that my so called "friend" will jeopardize our relationship, seeing as I don't work with them any more, and she still works with him. Even worse, I don't know if she's talking smack behind my back or not. I'm guessing since she does about her other friends to me, why wouldn't she do the same to me, telling him false information about me?

 

[retinoid]

you may just want to resolve the conflict that is what the dream is saying.

 

[Culpeper]

Interpreting dreams often involves opposites. The dream may seem bad but it indicates favorable things in your waking life. On the other hand pleasant dreams indicate unfavorable events. But for dream divination to work properly you need to concentrate on a question before you go to sleep. Dreams will then give the answer to the question if you write down the dream.

 

[zoumizzouzou]

Interpreting dreams often involves opposites. The dream may seem bad but it indicates favorable things in your waking life. On the other hand pleasant dreams indicate unfavorable events. But for dream divination to work properly you need to concentrate on a question before you go to sleep. Dreams will then give the answer to the question if you write down the dream.

I shall try dream divination tonight... I've always wondered of a technique to dream answers.

 

[actio]

Some insight from Dream Moods A-Z of dreams could reveal the reasons for your puzzling dream experiences actio

Thank you Jupiter. One dream dictionary I've consulted seem to suggest that love and hate become reversed in a dream. If someone professes love that means that they hate you, while if someone hates you that means they love you. These dreams are unsettling because I carry the emotional residue onto my waking life.

Actio, Idk what to say.. In my opinion it sounds like you're holding onto something.

what gave you that impression Prominent?

Oooh! I'm having a similar problem... I used to work with this guy that I really, really, like (ok, maybe I'm in loooove with him), and my friend that I have known for almost 11 years now (she got me my job), has been saying things that conflict with my dreams. For one, this guy gave all the signs of liking me. When I brought this up to her, she just brushed it all aside. Then when I told her that I loved him, she started saying, "Well, I'm sorry but he hates you, and it will never happen, so you should just get over it." I never did anything to him to make him hate me, angry yes, but not to the point of hating me. In my dreams, he is romantic towards me, without going in to details (its not sex related, promise!), its just that I don't get that vibe from him, nor do I in real life (of him hating me, of course), so I think she's lying to me, but Idk why she would do that, seeing as she has a boyfriend that she loves dearly and has been with for 3 years!

How can she know that he hates you? Haha. Even if she has a boyfriend she may still envy you and try to ruin your chances. Friendships among girls are so strange sometimes

 

[Prominent]

what gave you that impression Prominent?

The opposing nature of the dream to real-life suggests to me that there is a struggle. Perhaps your desire for a friendly/caring relationship is wanted more as the real one becomes more off-putting/hateful.
The dream probably just reflects what you aren't getting, as a way to keep you balanced and also serves to remind you what you can get from people in general(you may not be able to get it from the person that is hateful towards you even though the dream uses their image).

 

[zoumizzouzou]

How can she know that he hates you? Haha. Even if she has a boyfriend she may still envy you and try to ruin your chances. Friendships among girls are so strange sometimes

I don't know. Unless she said something and talked smack to him, I really don't know. You're right, girls have strange friendships

 

[JUPITERASC]

Thank you Jupiter. One dream dictionary I've consulted seem to suggest that love and hate become reversed in a dream. If someone professes love that means that they hate you, while if someone hates you that means they love you. These dreams are unsettling because I carry the emotional residue onto my waking life.

Tai Chi is calming - could calm reactions to dreams as well http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejB-jBtZqqU&feature=related

 

[actio]

This is still going on. I can't believe it. It's been almost a year, we still don't get along and it seems like we're destined to conflict due to irreconcilable differences of personality, but I still keep having dreams where we blissfully get along - this is so confusing and frustrating

Last dream at least it said something about a message that this person has for me, but I have no idea what it might be...

 

[Imagication]

Could your dreams have anything to do with expectations attached to the relationships that are causing friction?

Do you ever feel that if whomever you are conflicted with were able to change their ways and relate better to you that the rough edges would be smoothed out?

How much effort do you put into being accommodating towards others' needs?

It's a recurring push-pull power struggle being portrayed through the dreams in my opinion, and I would venture to guess it revolves around yours and/or others' expectations of what is to come from the relations.

 

[actio]

It's a recurring push-pull power struggle being portrayed through the dreams in my opinion, and I would venture to guess it revolves around yours and/or others' expectations of what is to come from the relations.

Thanks for your help. I didn't have much expectations about us getting along or not getting along. When I joined this social group, I had no idea who anybody was, so I wasn't expecting anything. But this person targeted me almost immediately. Then I had a few dreams about them almost "clinging" on to me and idealizing me, while in reality they were trying to take me down, undermine my credibility, destroy me. Which confused me a lot.

I finally obtained this person's birth data and checked our synastry. It turns out that they have a stellium of 3 planets in my 12th house. Could be the reason I kept having these strange dreams about them. 12th house is the house of all things hidden, and these could have been subconscious messages between us.

I've recently been studying this parapsychological system that talks about how person's karma (informational fields) influence their psychology, motivations, and actions in the real world. There, I've read that people who are at the risk of developing strong inner attachments with someone will often start fights and arguments with that person. They do this in order to distance from the person who can make them dangerously attached to this world, to relationships, which would be damaging to their spiritual self. Now I'm wondering if this person had sensed some kind of possibility of a strong attachment (as they would be demonstrating to me in my dreams by idealizing me and trying to get frighteningly close - subconscious motivations, 12th house connection), but to save themselves from it on the earthly plane they had to fight and make me distance.