Does she feel any remorse cheating us?

[Lily1983]

As per my previous horary thread question, we discovered that my brother and sister in law are lying and cheating us by claiming we owe them debt when we have been paying off a business loan arranged by them only to find out they’ve been borrowing money from her father and not using the money we sent them to pay it back. We are currently arranging to take legal action to protect my elderly father from their blackmailing using intimidation and threatening to slander him to his business partners.

I’m really curious to ask - does my sister in law feel any remorse to cheating us?

She grew up very poor and has turned into a very arrogant person since marrying my older brother. She treats his side of the family (us) like a bank account and uses her young children to emotionally blackmail us saying “don’t you care about the children?” if she doesn’t get her way and it’s always about money.

Both my older brother and sister in law refused previously to get jobs. Now my older brother is working part time else where because he doesn’t want to lose all his freedom and she hasn’t yet started looking for a job. This change was after we told her father how they are behaving and he told them off but at the same time told us he doesn’t want a relationship with us anymore. I think her father expected my parents to pay for his daughter’s every need to fulfil a life she’s always wanted to live.

It’s such a mess and we believe both my brother and sister in law are lying to her own parents to make us look like bad people.

Her family also have relationship issues with their other daughters’ in laws and it’s always about money! They demand the in laws to give their daughters a wealthy lifestyle with no job responsibilities.

Unlike my father who is an enabler, the other in laws stuck up for themselves and said no. I’m in shock my own father has been overly generous to my sister in law for 5 years! Now my parents are financially struggling and my sister in law still demands money and even claims she will send debt collectors to my parents home to pay for this debt that is most likely her and my brother’s credit card debts!

I’m so angry and it’s been stuck on my mind. I want the truth to come out and cannot wait until they receive a legal letter but that won’t be until next month as we are gathering all financial evidence.

I’m in shock at her lack of empathy or care to our family. She seems really selfish and bullies.

Also my brother refusing to grow up and be financially responsible for his own family. My parents completely spoiled him and kept paying for his debts while I hardly got anything. He went to the best schools and my father previously helped him get jobs then he got married and became lazy and treated the past 5 years as a holiday. He has shown he has no care for us either since he got married. He even told us he doesn’t think of us as family and we will never see his children again since we all refused to give them anymore money.

 

[Lily1983]

I just realised the ascendant is late. Does that mean I already know the answer? She has no remorse for cheating us?

 

[waybread]

No, the late degree rising has one of two possible meanings. The main one is that the situation does not have enough energy in it to provide an answer, usually because the answer is already known. The secondary meaning is that, because the ascendant is about to change signs, the situation is about to change.

It;s hard to say whether your sister-in-law feels remorse. Her behavior as you describe it suggests that you already know the answer to your question. Your sister in law, as the planet ruling the 7th house from the third house of siblings, is ruled by Saturn. Saturn has no essential dignity. Whether she feels remorse or not, she is not in a strong position as a player in your family drama. Saturn is about to be joined by Mars. If anything, I think your sister-in-law feels frustrated and upset. Obviously her life isn't going the way she wants. She doesn't seem to have diplomatic or coping skills.

You are symbolized by Venus, which is in detriment in Aries, so you are not in a good position to resolve this situation.

What you can do, is to stop focusing on how everyone feels (or imagines,) which just makes the whole situation overly emotional. Calm and rational heads will be needed to get whatever resolution out of this difficult situation the family can manage.

 

[aqualovebot]

I'm going to unfortunately say no. You're Venus in Aries, in your detriment and fall of Saturn the wife. Saturn is exalting you but regarding the situation I'm inclined as reading the reception as this person has everything, their life is so perfect so ugh why can't they help me? Especially when it sits in the fall of your second house so she is literally bringing down your money.