I can’t sleep and was looking back at old message interactions I had with my older brother who I haven’t spoken to since early February. Some were good interactions and some were bad. I feel heartbroken.
It’s regarding their huge debt which he and his wife claim my family is responsible for, but he refused to get a job since 2016 and earn his own income. The problem was my father never gave him a budget and was manipulated to let my brother’s wife handle all our family earnings as she previously worked as an accountant, but when we asked for proof of documents for this debt, they both argued that it’s an invasion of privacy and we should just pay it into their savings account. Now my parents have no savings and have to rebuild.
What really hurt the worst was last year, my brother and his wife claimed her parents would lose their apartment and truck if we don’t pay some of the debt as she had to borrow money so we paid and had to borrow money to live on for a few months, but then my brother and his wife went on holiday abroad and stayed in an all inclusive resort with her parents and sisters and their husbands for one week, a couple of months later! We don’t understand where her relatives got the money as they don’t make enough to go on holiday abroad.
Earlier this year, we all realised a lot of things don’t add up and we all believe they scammed us.
The horary chart shows that the question is too early to ask? Does this mean more will be revealed? Or will we get proof in the future over this situation? I feel so hurt how my brother’s wife acts so entitled to our money and we cut them both off financially earlier this year.
My brother now has a low earning full time job and claims he lost two stone since February. I feel so sorry for him because I feel like he’s just trying to please his demanding wife and under her control, but at the same time, he doesn’t want a full time office job which could make him earn a lot more. Also my father has always been helping him and giving him money and opportunities which he always wasted since he was a teenager even when he behaved badly. Last year, my brother was boasting about wanting to be a househusband. He was so comfortable making his elderly father slave away working in his late 70s while my brother just helped with emails a couple of hours a day and took ages completing one email each time.
Does the horary chart also help with resolutions with the questions asked? What should I do? Every professional and personal advice I received said to leave him alone as he has to grow up and learn how to be a responsible adult. Also to focus on helping my elderly parents and myself. My father feels awful that he spoiled him rotten. Also it’s really sad my brother married someone who just wants other people’s money and uses their young children as a weapon.
It’s regarding their huge debt which he and his wife claim my family is responsible for, but he refused to get a job since 2016 and earn his own income. The problem was my father never gave him a budget and was manipulated to let my brother’s wife handle all our family earnings as she previously worked as an accountant, but when we asked for proof of documents for this debt, they both argued that it’s an invasion of privacy and we should just pay it into their savings account. Now my parents have no savings and have to rebuild.
What really hurt the worst was last year, my brother and his wife claimed her parents would lose their apartment and truck if we don’t pay some of the debt as she had to borrow money so we paid and had to borrow money to live on for a few months, but then my brother and his wife went on holiday abroad and stayed in an all inclusive resort with her parents and sisters and their husbands for one week, a couple of months later! We don’t understand where her relatives got the money as they don’t make enough to go on holiday abroad.
Earlier this year, we all realised a lot of things don’t add up and we all believe they scammed us.
The horary chart shows that the question is too early to ask? Does this mean more will be revealed? Or will we get proof in the future over this situation? I feel so hurt how my brother’s wife acts so entitled to our money and we cut them both off financially earlier this year.
My brother now has a low earning full time job and claims he lost two stone since February. I feel so sorry for him because I feel like he’s just trying to please his demanding wife and under her control, but at the same time, he doesn’t want a full time office job which could make him earn a lot more. Also my father has always been helping him and giving him money and opportunities which he always wasted since he was a teenager even when he behaved badly. Last year, my brother was boasting about wanting to be a househusband. He was so comfortable making his elderly father slave away working in his late 70s while my brother just helped with emails a couple of hours a day and took ages completing one email each time.
Does the horary chart also help with resolutions with the questions asked? What should I do? Every professional and personal advice I received said to leave him alone as he has to grow up and learn how to be a responsible adult. Also to focus on helping my elderly parents and myself. My father feels awful that he spoiled him rotten. Also it’s really sad my brother married someone who just wants other people’s money and uses their young children as a weapon.
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