Is there anything non material I can give them?

[sue]

By them I mean my son, his wife, and his two little daughters.
i imagine it is possible to check who could benefit most from me...
What is it could be a good gift to them or to each?
My time?
My knowledge?
My silence?
My home?
examples, beliefs, honesty,etc.

Too hard to answer? I hope not.

 

[sue]

Expl

By them I mean my son, his wife, and his two little daughters.
i imagine it is possible to check who could benefit most from me...
What is it could be a good gift to them or to each?
My time?
My knowledge?
My silence?
My home?
examples, beliefs, honesty,etc.

Too hard to answer? I hope not.

Explaining a little better why this question arised: this weekend my son and one of his married friends wanted me to have both families for lunch in my house as they wanted to see each other and also introduce me and themselves their toddlers. I gladly accepted having them for lunch as I like that friend, like having my sons family over every Sunday and so I prepared them a good meal, etc. My son is a great son...but I was surprised to get a note from him brfore the event asking me not to talk about any of my beliefs, either philosophical or political or whatever. I was suprised as he, my son, finds my ideas interesting...and also his old friend likes talking to me. We talk constantly and he seems to enjoy. He was the first to have the idea to cone to my house so I would know hus wife and baby daughter.
Maybe his wife, my dil, doesnt like my conversation? Anyway I was suprised as we have had only common conversations all last meetings...nothing special.
But later, after the event, I really got upset with him. It was first time we had a serious argument. I pointed: I gladly do a nice meal for your family, your friend, offer them drinks, affection...and YOU tell me what I can talk about in my own house?
In this case I prefer not talking with you anymore...you guys do the talking. I will be silent! I really lost my enthusiasm to share my ideas with you. I will talk instead with my friends...if someobe likes me that person likes also my conversation. If not...then...well...

But this chart shows I should keep sharing my "philosophies" with them!
They are good for them all.
How do you see it?

 

[IleneK]

Here is what I see in a broad stroke. You/Venus are exalted and domiciled in the traditional elevated 10th house of the mother. Venus also applies to conjunction with Saturn, ruler of the 10th and which also exalts you/Venus.

So one way of looking at this is that it would appear that perhaps the gift you may best bestow upon your children and their children is the esteemed and invaluable role of mother and mothering. And perhaps a proscribed role as your son described, based on Saturn's proximity to Venus?

Moon void of course may suggest that this matter that happened may be nothing to be bothered about, that nothing will come of it?

 

[sue]

Here is what I see in a broad stroke. You/Venus are exalted and domiciled in the traditional elevated 10th house of the mother. Venus also applies to conjunction with Saturn, ruler of the 10th and which also exalts you/Venus.

So one way of looking at this is that it would appear that perhaps the gift you may best bestow upon your children and their children is the esteemed and invaluable role of mother and mothering. And perhaps a proscribed role as your son described, based on Saturn's proximity to Venus?

Moon void of course may suggest that this matter that happened may be nothing to be bothered about, that nothing will come of it?

Thank you.
I hadnt noticed the moob voc. Oh oh.

Don't you see both planets already in 11th...since so close to cusp?
I liked the Mercury in 9th(topics I love to talk about) in good aspect to both.

 

[IleneK]

Thank you.
I hadnt noticed the moob voc. Oh oh.

You are welcome.
Moon voc may just mean that it was no big deal, than nothing will come of it

Don't you see both planets already in 11th...since so close to cusp?

Not especially. We look at the chart to see how it reflects the context that the OP offers. To me, this feels like a matter between a parent and children. So 10th makes more sense than 11th, especially with you as Venus coming to meet Saturn as ruler of the 10th. It's a more coherent interpretation than the 11th to me.

I liked the Mercury in 9th(topics I love to talk about) in good aspect to both.

Yes, Mercury especially likes Saturn by reception. Not sure but maybe Mercury also may translate light between you/Venus and Saturn10th.
Good luck with this!