taraliveshere
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Hello everyone, I'm a first time user & I hope some of you can help me out. I don't have many friends to talk with about this.
I'm a woman and the love relationship I've been in for the past 3 months exploded into bits yesterday over an argument, and since then, I've been blocked everywhere. The blocking feels really extreme, which makes me wonder if he really did care for me as he both said and showed he did.
I'm so confused and upset. We were growing quite close and had been having a terrific time together. We've also been able to talk about any issues so far as they've cropped up, but this issue blew up like a volcano.
(The issue: him scrolling past skanky tik tok videos while we both watch, BUT then LIKING them in secret later when I'm not there -- I discovered this yesterday at his place, and told him that it hurt my feelings and made me question his loyalty & sexual interest, but he didn't want to hear it. Instead he became upset with ME and told me to go home. Did I over-react? Or was my intuition telling me something?)
Details: We met on May 5th this year and were friends for 2 months, seeing each other quite regularly before becoming intimate in late June.
Also: I'm 53, he's 41, and he's from another country on a 3 year work permit. He's learning English, speaks it quite well, and I'm learning his language (albeit very slowly) so we've had a few misunderstandings already involving communication. We do have a good mental rapport however, and so we've always approached these misunderstandings with patience -- using translating apps -- and we've resolved them, which makes yesterday's explosion & subsequent blocking so hard to handle.
I've attached our natal charts with progressions. I do NOT know his exact birth time, but instead made a *semi-educated* guess given his physical characteristics and outward behaviour. He's small, wiry and muscular, with lots of physical energy, and has had a few head injuries over the course of his lifetime, so I went with an Aries Ascendent. I could be wrong, but that's what I used for the chart.
Please, can this be resolved? Is it worth it to make an effort? I like to think it could be, but then again, maybe this issue is a deal-breaker for us? I do love him, very much, and honestly until yesterday was convinced that he loves me too.
Is reconciliation possible, OR have we reached our natural end?
With much thanks to all,
Tara.
Chart 1 = me
Chart 2 = him
Chart 3 = our Composite (midpoint method)
I'm a woman and the love relationship I've been in for the past 3 months exploded into bits yesterday over an argument, and since then, I've been blocked everywhere. The blocking feels really extreme, which makes me wonder if he really did care for me as he both said and showed he did.
I'm so confused and upset. We were growing quite close and had been having a terrific time together. We've also been able to talk about any issues so far as they've cropped up, but this issue blew up like a volcano.
(The issue: him scrolling past skanky tik tok videos while we both watch, BUT then LIKING them in secret later when I'm not there -- I discovered this yesterday at his place, and told him that it hurt my feelings and made me question his loyalty & sexual interest, but he didn't want to hear it. Instead he became upset with ME and told me to go home. Did I over-react? Or was my intuition telling me something?)
Details: We met on May 5th this year and were friends for 2 months, seeing each other quite regularly before becoming intimate in late June.
Also: I'm 53, he's 41, and he's from another country on a 3 year work permit. He's learning English, speaks it quite well, and I'm learning his language (albeit very slowly) so we've had a few misunderstandings already involving communication. We do have a good mental rapport however, and so we've always approached these misunderstandings with patience -- using translating apps -- and we've resolved them, which makes yesterday's explosion & subsequent blocking so hard to handle.
I've attached our natal charts with progressions. I do NOT know his exact birth time, but instead made a *semi-educated* guess given his physical characteristics and outward behaviour. He's small, wiry and muscular, with lots of physical energy, and has had a few head injuries over the course of his lifetime, so I went with an Aries Ascendent. I could be wrong, but that's what I used for the chart.
Please, can this be resolved? Is it worth it to make an effort? I like to think it could be, but then again, maybe this issue is a deal-breaker for us? I do love him, very much, and honestly until yesterday was convinced that he loves me too.
Is reconciliation possible, OR have we reached our natural end?
With much thanks to all,
Tara.
Chart 1 = me
Chart 2 = him
Chart 3 = our Composite (midpoint method)