Why Can't I sympathize With People?

[akp124]

I've noticed a lot lately that when someone is going through a hard time like a health scare, death in the family, etc. I don't feel sorry for them. Or when I see something that saddens everyone else, I just go, "Meh, whatever. Doesn't concern me."

I saw that people were crying when the little girl with cancer died. She was a youtube star. Even people that had never heard about her were really sad. And here I was, just saying, "Whatever."

The death of Treyvon Martin and all the media attention surrounding it, I really couldn't care any less. It actually annoys me. Again, i was like, "Meh, whatever. Kids get killed everyday. Why is he important?"

And when my grandfather died a couple of years ago, I really didn't care. It was just another death to me.

My grandmother is admitted to the hospital every couple of months because she doesn't take care of herself with her diabetes. And when she goes, I don't bother to go see her until my mom makes me. It's not that I don't care about her, it's just that she puts herself in this condition, why should I help her out?

If you tell me about a woman that has been abused for years, I will tell you," She keeps going back to him, not my fault, I don't feel sorry for her." I'll feel sorry for them the first time, but if she keeps going back again and again, I just don't care anymore.

I should be more considerate of people, being a libra and all...but I'm not.

 

[Katydidit]

... I should be more considerate of people ...

There is consideration, then sympathy, then empathy.

It seems that you have chosen a very detached path of soul. That might work in this new age, but it might also be a very lonely life.

I wish you love.

 

[Vista]

Can you post your chart? You can get one for free at astro.com. Do you have empathy and compassion for animals?

I've noticed a lot lately that when someone is going through a hard time like a health scare, death in the family, etc. I don't feel sorry for them. Or when I see something that saddens everyone else, I just go, "Meh, whatever. Doesn't concern me."

I saw that people were crying when the little girl with cancer died. She was a youtube star. Even people that had never heard about her were really sad. And here I was, just saying, "Whatever."

The death of Treyvon Martin and all the media attention surrounding it, I really couldn't care any less. It actually annoys me. Again, i was like, "Meh, whatever. Kids get killed everyday. Why is he important?"

And when my grandfather died a couple of years ago, I really didn't care. It was just another death to me.

My grandmother is admitted to the hospital every couple of months because she doesn't take care of herself with her diabetes. And when she goes, I don't bother to go see her until my mom makes me. It's not that I don't care about her, it's just that she puts herself in this condition, why should I help her out?

If you tell me about a woman that has been abused for years, I will tell you," She keeps going back to him, not my fault, I don't feel sorry for her." I'll feel sorry for them the first time, but if she keeps going back again and again, I just don't care anymore.

I should be more considerate of people, being a libra and all...but I'm not.

 

[akp124]

I feel more sorry for animals than people.

 

[Vista]

You have quite a fascinating natal chart. I can see why you might lack sympathy/compassion for people. From what I can see, it appears to come from your childhood. It seems there were disruptions(perhaps the parents divorcing) or there was inconsistency within you home environment. Also, you may have experienced coldness and lack of love, perhaps substance abuse issues going on behind the scenes with one of your parents or one parent was gone or not home much as you were growing up. You have a Cardinal Grand Square(Some would say a Cardinal Cross but the orbs are a bit wide between some of the planets) which involves Mercury, Uranus, Saturn, Neptune, Jupiter, and your Moon in angular houses, i.e. 1st, 4th, 7th, and 10th which makes them even stronger and more important within your make-up. This is a powerful configuration and if used positively, it points to great success in life and powerful gifts. Finding a good outlet for this energy, in other words following your passion in life would be an excellent outlet. It seems you would be good at many things and when you put your mind to something, you can excell. Now, the negative manifestation could be a low boredom threshold and lack of sticktoitiveness. You can be one prone to depression, daydreaming and erratic emotions at times with both the Moon (feelings)and Mercury(thinking) part of the Grand Square pattern specifically T squaring(challenging) Uranus(unpredictability), Saturn(coldness, depression, delay) and Neptune)rose colored glasses, substance abuse, delusion/deception). Again, it is extremely important for you to be focused on a very big, perhaps long-term goal to drive you and "drive" this Cardinal Grand Square into it's best manifestation. I think once you have gotten older and experience life more, perhaps the empathy and compassion will develop over time or perhaps you will allow this side of your personality to shine through. Lastly, both your Sun and Mars are in Libra which are in detriment and Fall making them a little debilitated. However, Sun conjunct Mars is very energizing so I think this will help offset the debility and also help drive your Grand Square.

I feel more sorry for animals than people.

 

[akp124]

You have quite a fascinating natal chart. I can see why you might lack sympathy/compassion for people. From what I can see, it appears to come from your childhood. It seems there were disruptions(perhaps the parents divorcing) or there was inconsistency within you home environment. Also, you may have experienced coldness and lack of love, perhaps substance abuse issues going on behind the scenes with one of your parents or one parent was gone or not home much as you were growing up. You have a Cardinal Grand Square(Some would say a Cardinal Cross but the orbs are a bit wide between some of the planets) which involves Mercury, Uranus, Saturn, Neptune, Jupiter, and your Moon in angular houses, i.e. 1st, 4th, 7th, and 10th which makes them even stronger and more important within your make-up. This is a powerful configuration and if used positively, it points to great success in life and powerful gifts. Finding a good outlet for this energy, in other words following your passion in life would be an excellent outlet. It seems you would be good at many things and when you put your mind to something, you can excell. Now, the negative manifestation could be a low boredom threshold and lack of sticktoitiveness. You can be one prone to depression, daydreaming and erratic emotions at times with both the Moon (feelings)and Mercury(thinking) part of the Grand Square pattern specifically T squaring(challenging) Uranus(unpredictability), Saturn(coldness, depression, delay) and Neptune)rose colored glasses, substance abuse, delusion/deception). Again, it is extremely important for you to be focused on a very big, perhaps long-term goal to drive you and "drive" this Cardinal Grand Square into it's best manifestation. I think once you have gotten older and experience life more, perhaps the empathy and compassion will develop over time or perhaps you will allow this side of your personality to shine through. Lastly, both your Sun and Mars are in Libra which are in detriment and Fall making them a little debilitated. However, Sun conjunct Mars is very energizing so I think this will help offset the debility and also help drive your Grand Square.

Thanks for that. As far as I remember, there was no abuse in our household. The only thing I do remember is that my dad was almost never home because he's a truck driver. My mother opened up a restaurant, which led me to be depressed because she would spend every spare minute over there, and basically ignore us. You got it right with the erratic emotions.

I don't have a drug problem in fact, the times I have tried marijuana (the only drug I have taken), I didn't like it. I hate alcohol. I do get bored easily though.

I don't know, maybe it's because I think I know that the world is a cruel place and it's gonna happen no matter what.

 

[Vista]

Glad to hear you don't have a drug problem although I was referring to maybe one of your parents having an issue with substance abuse(alcohol mostly is what I was thinking). Glad there wasn't any of that for you in your life although parents being absent isn't ideal either but they did what they had to in order to provide for their family.

Thanks for that. As far as I remember, there was no abuse in our household. The only thing I do remember is that my dad was almost never home because he's a truck driver. My mother opened up a restaurant, which led me to be depressed because she would spend every spare minute over there, and basically ignore us. You got it right with the erratic emotions.

I don't have a drug problem in fact, the times I have tried marijuana (the only drug I have taken), I didn't like it. I hate alcohol. I do get bored easily though.

I don't know, maybe it's because I think I know that the world is a cruel place and it's gonna happen no matter what.

 

[Heriotza]

Keeping things simple, you have a strong Libra personality with the Sun, Mars and Mercury in this sign. The coldness you say you possess is perfectly understandable if you take into consideration the fact that even when people around you is going through a hard time, you think that their should be responsible for that or at least someone else should be, (the inner sense of justice of Libra), so for you, there is no point in sympathizing with something or someone. That not going to make justice for them. Other thing that explain this is the lack of water in your chart. There is no personal planets in water sings (only Pluto is found in Scorpio). That explain the fact that many times you can't feel the other people feeling or even be aware of your own feelings.

 

[akp124]

Unfortunately, my lack of emplathy for other people doesn't extend to myself. I tend to go through periods where I feel sad and depressed and just feel sorry for myself.

 

[astrokat]

Unfortunately, my lack of emplathy for other people doesn't extend to myself. I tend to go through periods where I feel sad and depressed and just feel sorry for myself.

Hi Akp,

I agree with the poster above that said you have a fascinating natal chart.

I need to take some time to pick through your natal chart. But, it's a very interesting chart.

I use a different house system than you, but that's no big deal. I'm currently in school and have a tight schedule but when I get time I'd love to have a deeper look at your chart.

 

[akp124]

Hi Akp,

I agree with the poster above that said you have a fascinating natal chart.

I need to take some time to pick through your natal chart. But, it's a very interesting chart.

I use a different house system than you, but that's no big deal. I'm currently in school and have a tight schedule but when I get time I'd love to have a deeper look at your chart.

Go right ahead. I don't really know why mine is so fascinating unless it means that I will win the lottery

And to the person above, me: I do feel sad when my mom is going through stuff. When it comes to my grandmother, she knows what she is and is not suppose to do with her diabetes. She decides to do everything she's not suppose to anyway. I really don't know how to explain it.

 

[Zarathu]

I don't think you don't have empathy toward other people, I think you don't want to have empathy toward other people.

Your Venus is very low friction, and Out of bounds. I think that you tend to get overwhelmed by by other people's problems and as a result you have had to learn detachment in self defense.

Think about times in the past that you have done this, if you can, and you may remember some really difficult situations.

 

[poyi]

In term of psychology. I learned a bit from interacting with people and hear what they describe of their coldness toward other people's misfortune. I got the sense that these people are not less sympathetic but more that they found it very hard to cope with their emotions and as many above had said you chose to detach yourself.

You consciously aware of your own uncommon behavior toward other people's sadness. To me that is already enough to tell that you are still a good person but unable to express and not coping with the emotions.

Verbal and non verbal expression, Mercury and Emotion, Moon, we can see that Mercury and Moon is part of the t-sqaure with Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

But your Moon trine Venus. Venus is excellent to be in 12th house as the house of Pisces and it shows secretly your Moon in the 4th house although in Aries Fire sign still you have abundant feelings. It could be the combusted ruler Mars. As a result your Moon's ruler combusted, so the Jupiter in Cancer, then the Venus in Sagittarius. As a whole the grand cross are challenges of those planets.

I would say the function of the above planets not fully functioning as they should. But it doesn't mean that you are a bad person.

Your awareness is the first step of transformation if you chose to go that path. I am a believer of if you have positive attitude and will of being a better person, then you already are.

 

[Bunraku]

CS what is your interpretation of this chart

 

[conspiracy theorist]

The chart is dynamic and I don't care to go in-depth but there are a couple of interesting cliffs I can share.

This is the second time where I've seen a chart that has all the ruler of the angles afflicted/corrupted and what this indicates is that the person is truly "malevolent". Two (3 actually) is not a large sample but it's something to bare in mind.

asc ruler is in the 8th, exalted (might indicate someone with a high opinion of themselves/arrogant), and afflicted by Saturn/Uranus/Neptune by opposition. Moon and Merc are also afflicted by that triple conjunction in Capricorn.

Then Aries Moon's tend to be me first types.

 

[conspiracy theorist]

Oh, the two other charts I saw with the angles affliction were prisoners. I found that an interesting coincidence.

 

[Bunraku]

Where do you stand with astrology now? That method had a very DIY vibe to it (interesting).

 

[conspiracy theorist]

I'm exploring around and keeping my eyes open. Trad is powerful and the most effective in my eyes, but I'm looking to see if there is something to the other branches. I like some of what jyotish has to offer and I keep an open mind to the good modern stuff. If I could find a good chinese astrology corpus that goes beyond the pop ******** that would be great too.

 

[Bunraku]

Yeah well the Chinese closely guarded their silk trades and secrets for millenniums. Good luck with that.

 

[conspiracy theorist]

Well that *** Mao made it a point of duty to destroy the cultural artifacts and ideas that were previous to his regime i.e. all of them so those traditions are even more likely to be really exclusive.

Maybe one of the chinese adepts adopts me into his astrology lineage when he reads my akashic record.