why the sudden dislike from him?

[kayleegg]

so someone ive known for years hosted a halloween party and suddenly he has acted differently towards me and i cant understand why?

context: i casted a chart on october 8th saying "when i will be added to the rsvp list" and i got chart #1 a sagittarius rising with gemini 7h, a few days went by and i never received confirmation.

then a few days later i casted chart #2 on october 12th asking whats the blockage with my rsvp? and i got a late degree capricorn rising.

so the only thing that i can think of was when i saw him on october 5th, he looked up at me and smiled while opening his arms to say hi to me but i got distracted with another person since she came up to me to say hi, so i never had the chance to reciprocate the hello or say hi to him, but i thought nothing of it? i was worried a little because i hate to seem standoffish or not welcoming towards others but i didnt think he would perceive it as personal since there was no malicious intent behind me not saying hello.

on 10/19 i saw him and i was kind and said "oh hey! you look nice tonight" (he was wearing a costume) and he smiled and said "thank you" so he was normal and nice, not being blatantly rude but it did feel awkward a little? i then said "oh you guys are having a halloween party next saturday (10/26)!" and he goes "oh yeah well its *his roommates name* party" and i said "yeah fun! my sister and i rsvped" and he said "yeah its my roommates party" and i just nodded my head and said "yeah"

so background on this: first off he has always been the one to add me to the rsvp whenever he and his roommates hosted anything, he would even go ahead to invite me to their gatherings and theres never been "one roommates party." that said his roommate is someone ive liked on and off for years, we never dated or have had any arguments or issues or confusion with one another (at least not to my knowledge?) he has always been kind and we hug each other hi when we see one another. i'm not sure why he (the guy whose this horary is about) would pin that the party is only his roommates party (which also means the roommates has to accept me in order to go?) so like ive said its never been just one roommates party, its all of theirs and ive been to 4 other things they have hosted before.

the roommate has the ability to add me to the rsvp but he ultimately never did, but like ive said he never has been the one with past rsvps and ive known him for 2 years. he normally isn't the one doing the event list.

was this shift from me not saying hi or with the roommate? both make no sense to me but to preface me and the roommate haven't spoken too each other like we used to. we dont flirt as consistently but i wouldn't think that would be causation especially since the roommate is a nice person? on 10/24 i saw the roommate and he walked up to me to say hi and i said "hi its been awhile its nice to see you" and he responded "yes hi it's nice to see you" and then we proceeded on our night. i occasionally do look over at the roommate when i see him out a part of me can't help it because a part of me still cares about him? the guy whose this horary is about knows my relationship with the roommate and he (before this occurrence) was always open and receptive of me? i honestly cant believe the roommate truly cares that much of me to where if i did do something that actually bothered him?

ive been out and about before and have conversed with other guys in front of him, sometimes i feel like he cares sometimes i feel like he doesn't, on 9/21 i was hanging out with other guys w my friends but again i really cant think that would be enough of a reason to tell the guy (whose this horary is about) that he dislikes me now or something especially since we say hello and are on good terms (at least i think so?)

he has been with other girls in front of my face many times, i understand he isn't that interested in me since if he was he'd pursue me and he doesn't? so what is this change up about its confusing, the roommate or the guy whose this horary is for?

(this is going to sound weird but i do feel an emotional shift with the roommate and me, its weird its like i can feel his feelings for some odd reason, we share 12th house synastry so if you know astrology that house resonates with this type of feeling, i also feel really low and sad because of this and i think its obvious in these charts. feeling left out or that i did something wrong or bad to another person without knowing why is a big trigger for me)

if you need to know anything else let me know!

 

[Chrysalis]

Just looking at the first chart: The Moon/Jupiter opposition suggests you've been putting this guy on a pedestal. And he's felt this energy from you.

When you put someone on a pedestal, you automatically shrink yourself and make yourself less important than them.
Putting him on a pedestal completely shifts the dynamic between you both. Because you create separation by disempowering youself.

You think this guy is unreachable, and you’re just lucky if he even talks to you. So then you start seeking validation. As in if i can make this guy like me, or add me to the RSVP list that means that I am good enough. But if they don’t add me, I must be a loser. So you end up wasting all this energy and time on trying to come across as perfect as possible.

But in the end it leads to this...
Because he is feeling over-idealised he may feel like he has more power, hence why he is then less willing to put you on the RSVP list.

 

[kayleegg]

Just looking at the first chart: The Moon/Jupiter opposition suggests you've been putting this guy on a pedestal. And he's felt this energy from you.

When you put someone on a pedestal, you automatically shrink yourself and make yourself less important than them.
Putting him on a pedestal completely shifts the dynamic between you both. Because you create separation by disempowering youself.

You think this guy is unreachable, and you’re just lucky if he even talks to you. So then you start seeking validation. As in if i can make this guy like me, or add me to the RSVP list that means that I am good enough. But if they don’t add me, I must be a loser. So you end up wasting all this energy and time on trying to come across as perfect as possible.

But in the end it leads to this...
Because he is feeling over-idealised he may feel like he has more power, hence why he is then less willing to put you on the RSVP list.

Yeah this is a wound for me; generally has been throughout my life. In more essence I don't think he is unreachable or that 'I am lucky' to get spoken too, he just holds more objective power in a lot of scenarios within my social life and that does influence how well I want to be perceived.

It's so weird because a pattern that I see a lot within my life is I act very warm and open towards others because that is just how I am naturally and then the second I am lets say "normal" or even different (like where I don't go out of my way to say hi) things shift? SO weird.

That's good to know in general though! I should give myself more power and grace but I was just curious what the heck occurred if it was something I did etc, but I appreciate your response honestly.

 

[Chrysalis]

It's so weird because a pattern that I see a lot within my life is I act very warm and open towards others because that is just how I am naturally and then the second I am lets say "normal" or even different (like where I don't go out of my way to say hi) things shift? SO weird.

This is due to you being too open and available to them. Men like the chase!
When a man really wants you, you wont have to chase after him like he's a celebrity.
For a guy, the reward after the chase makes it more enjoyable.
You've got to to learn the art of patience and allow the guy to come to you.

So with respect to your circumstance ...be a bitch...nah, im jk, lol.
Find another Halloween party to go to, but make sure to post photos on whatever apps you use to let him see them indirectly. This demonstrates that you do not need to attend his party because you have your own, have had a great time, and look how damn sexy you looked.

You may then be perceived as challenging.

 

[kayleegg]

It's so weird because a pattern that I see a lot within my life is I act very warm and open towards others because that is just how I am naturally and then the second I am lets say "normal" or even different (like where I don't go out of my way to say hi) things shift? SO weird.

This is due to you being too open and available to them. Men like the chase!
When a man really wants you, you wont have to chase after him like he's a celebrity.
For a guy, the reward after the chase makes it more enjoyable.
You've got to to learn the art of patience and allow the guy to come to you.

So with respect to your circumstance ...be a *****...nah, im jk, lol.
Find another Halloween party to go to, but make sure to post photos on whatever apps you use to let him see them indirectly. This demonstrates that you do not need to attend his party because you have your own, have had a great time, and look how **** sexy you looked.

You may then be perceived as challenging.

That's very true I will keep this in mind in the future!! I needed this reminder.